A Japanese decluttering technique could revolutionise your social life.

Author Marie Kondo – whose best-selling books include The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying and Spark Joy – believes we should tidy by category, not on a room-by-room basis.

For example, she tells us to collect every single jumper in our house and pile them up in a heap.
Confronted by the physical proof of the quantities of things we own, it is easier to be realistic about which ones we actually want or need.

It is shocking to find we have, for example, 50 jumpers. So we deal with the jumpers first and then we move on to the next category, proceeding through skirts, dresses, china, books, paintings and komono (miscellany) until our home is filled with only joy-sparking objects.

Kondo says the possessions we keep should have three common elements: the beauty of the object itself, the amount of love that has been poured into it (acquired attraction) and the amount of history or significance it has accrued (experiential value).

But Kondo’s solution for jumpers will not work with humans. You would have to assemble them all and hug them one by one to see if they spark joy before discarding and sending those that don’t to a metaphorical charity shop.

But it could. Having discarded your non-joy-sparking friends, you could use Kondo’s method for possessions you are throwing out: ‘Thank them for what they have done for you and praise them for their good qualities before waving them on their way.’

You are left, in theory, with the core friends who you can be confident will spark joy. When you are unsure, Kondo recommends ‘praising them to the hilt’. She is talking about inanimate objects, but you could channel the same sentiments towards your low-joy-sparking friends.

Proskips recommends starting decluttering your life by taking stock of your possessions. For advice on skip hire and the type of items that can be put in a skip, contact us today.

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